Be the Leading Lady/Man of Your Life

Allowing yourself to be confident is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

Lights, Camera, ACTION!! Yep, it's time to take action. I know, I know you have so much going on, you will get to taking care of you soon. Next week, next month, oh my favorite is the start of the New Year. If we are going to be friends, I'm going to have to be real with you...the New Year is over and we have failed at our resolutions if we even made any, right? Do you know what? This is the perfect time. The perfect time to pick yourself up make your life happen.

Lets start with, you are not alone. I am not here to judge, but I am here to nudge. I started a page like this during COVID. I have wrote/filmed so many blogs, and vlogs, but never had the confidence to go forward. GOD has lit a torch under my behind and I am on FIRE!

When I say you need to be the leading lady/man in your life, I'm simply saying to PUT YOURSELF FIRST! That sounds unusual, doesn't it? We've always been taught to prioritize others, right? Putting yourself first would be selfish, wouldn't it? NO, not at all. You need to reach a point where you treat yourself so well and care for yourself so much that you're "filled up" with love, joy, gratitude, and energy. It's only then that you have enough love, joy, gratitude, and energy to share with others. I'm sure you've heard this before, but have you ever tried it? We spend our days doing for others, and by the end of the day or week, we often feel tired, sad, and somewhat empty. We never started with anything to give so of course it seems like a chore.

How do you fill yourself up? Let's start with some simple steps.

1. First thing is to get organized and find ways to make your days easy by being prepared. As many of us do, on Sunday we start to think about our week. What if you got in the habit (if you do not already) to:

   1. Prepare your clothes, make sure they are clean, ironed (we can talk about that one later), they fit well and make you feel good. Going this extra step makes the mornings go so easy. You can do the same for anyone else in the house who you are responsible for.

   2. Look at your schedule, do you have any deadlines or what bills are due this week? What is your plan, other than the last minute, to be on time, or early? If you can get them done now...get it done. It will be off your plate and off your mind.

2. Plan some time for YOU. Thirty minues each day. This might be getting up earlier or staying up later, but YOU NEED TIME.

   1. I choose the morning as soon as I get up. I wake up and start with graditude. I thank GOD for my beautiful life and I name everything I am grateful for. It is the way I know I am starting on a positive note. It keeps me from letting the "uglies" crawl in my head. The "uglies" are the bad questions or statements that we ask/say to ourselves that can allow our day to go to a bad place before it has even started. I'll share some of mine, and let me know if they ring familiar. "Why do I have to get up and go to that place no one appreciates me?" "Oh my goodenss can I look any fatter/older/uglier?" "I'm sure I'll have to (fill in the blank) because no one else will." "Why do I have to do everything around here?"

   2. In my time with me, I extend that to my time with GOD. I am lucky I have a hour and thirty minute drive to work a few days a week, so GOD gets to ride shot gun. I tease, but I have fun talking with GOD and blessing everyone in the cars around me. I'll talk more about that later.

3. Be good to YOU. I feel this is the most important part. How do you be good to you?

   1. Emotionally, be your very own best friend. Talk to you how you would your very best friend. Pump yourself up when you need to. You know you and you know your intentions. You know you are good, so be good to you.

   2. Show up for your life. When I say "show up" I mean to really be in the moment and dress for the moment. No more half-ass. I'm going to be blunt. Get up everyday with a purpose. Get yourself ready on the inside and the outsde. No more wearing pajama's outside the house. A main reason I am starting this blog is to motivate women and men to start getting back to having pride in themselves. If you look good you do feel good. I promise.

4. Put YOU first. Yes, of course there are things you have to do in your life that you just have to but decide what YOU want to do. This goes back to filling yourself up. If you like the beach for example, make some time to get to the beach. Do things you enjoy doing and visit those you love and want to visit. Don't put it off. Find your joy. If you have lived your life for everyone else this might be hard for you.

5. Plan for YOUR future. It doesn't matter if you are young or old, it's time to stop everyone else live their dreams and live yours. Does doing the things you have been doing get you toward YOUR GOALS AND YOUR HAPPINESS? What are some small steps you can take to start making a forward momentum toward your goals?

I will go into some more tips and tricks and take you shopping with me a lot in this blog, but I wanted to start out with something simple and easy. Please try just one of these exercises and tell me how you do. How did it make you feel? Is it something you might continue? I would love to hear from you.

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